• Put your emotions into a few words helps you respond with control rather than with an unconscious, habitual reaction. For example, say to yourself, “I’m feeling hurt” or “I’m feeling excluded.” From this non-judgmental starting point, you can begin to deal with the issue without it overwhelming you.
• Be prepared in advance to deal with routinely irritating situations—your emotional triggers—can help reduce their power over you.
• Once you’ve identified an emotion, take time to breathe in and out deeply. Exhaling an unwanted feeling helps deflate its power.
• If you’ve got a trusted friend or family member handy, share your experience of uncomfortable feelings with them.
• Work out your emotions via a brisk 30-minute walk or bike ride, pound a gym workout, or do whatever vigorous exercise you prefer. Exercise helps you regain balance.