A Mixed Picture: The State of Child Well-Being in 2026
The 2026 KIDS COUNT® Data Book, released by the Annie E. Casey Foundation, paints a complicated picture of life for children across the United States. Since 2019, the country has seen progress in some areas, yet significant hurdles remain that affect millions of families.
Overall, out of 16 key indicators, seven have improved, seven have worsened, and two have stayed the same.
Bright Spots: Where We Are Seeing Progress
Despite broader challenges, there are clear signs of improvement driven by economic recovery and targeted policies:
Stronger Family and Community Outcomes: This domain saw the most consistent progress. Teen birth rates have dropped 24%—a trend that has been falling for years—and fewer children are living in high-poverty neighborhoods.
Economic Gains: While the progress is described as fragile, there have been nationwide declines in child poverty, along with increases in parental employment and higher educational attainment.
Health and Education Milestones: We have seen a slight decrease in the share of children who are overweight or obese, and on-time high school graduation rates have improved.
The Education Crisis
Education remains the most concerning area in the report. With three out of four education indicators worsening since 2019, it is clear that pandemic-related disruptions left a deep mark on students and schools. Across 47 states, education scores have declined, as reading and math proficiency levels have dropped and preschool participation has fallen.
Persistent Health and Economic Hurdles
While some areas have improved, other data points remain alarming:
Health Coverage: In 2024, 4.6 million children in the U.S. lacked health insurance. After a temporary boost during the pandemic, coverage rates have returned to 2019 levels, leading to missed opportunities for basic preventative care.
Housing Costs: For the first time since 2010, the share of children living in households burdened by high housing costs has increased, reaching 31% of children nationwide.
Disconnected Youth: Over 1.2 million teens are currently disconnected from both school and work.
The Reality in Texas
The report highlights a sobering outlook for Texas, which ranks 44th in overall child well-being. Texas currently holds the highest uninsured rate for children in the nation, with 1.1 million children—or 14% of all kids in the state—lacking health coverage.
Academic challenges are also significant: 76% of Texas 8th graders are scoring below proficient in math, and 33% of children are living in households burdened by housing costs.
However, there is a silver lining in the Lone Star State. Texas saw a major boost in the family and community domain, driven by a 25% drop in teen births and improved high school graduation rates. The state currently ranks 3rd nationally for its on-time graduation rate, with only 9% of students failing to graduate on schedule.
Geography matters
Where a child grows up continues to play a major role in their future. There is a massive gap in well-being scores across the country, ranging from 271 in Mississippi to 838 in New Hampshire.
Regional trends persist, with many of the lowest-scoring states concentrated in the South, while the Northeast holds many of the highest-scoring states. However, the report makes one thing clear: every state, regardless of its current ranking, has significant room to improve. Whether through narrowing the education gap or ensuring every child has access to healthcare, the data shows that targeted investments and policy changes are essential to creating better outcomes for the next generation.
Early exposure to mature content is a big deal, and it’s messing with kids in ways you wouldn’t believe. And no, we’re not just talking about kids sneaking into the “parental controls” section on Netflix to watch “R-rated” movies. We’re talking about the wild, crazy, and often disturbing world of the internet, where every child with a smartphone is just one click away from seeing some pretty messed-up stuff.
Imagine you’re a 10-year-old kid, scrolling through YouTube or TikTok looking for funny cat videos (because who doesn’t love cats?). Suddenly, BOOM—you get an ad for something like… well, let’s just say it’s not exactly age-appropriate. That’s the internet for you: one minute you’re watching a cute puppy, and the next, you’re deep in the wilds of the web, trying to unsee whatever you just accidentally clicked on. Kids are getting exposed to things like graphic violence, sex, and weirdly specific ads that no 9-year-old should ever have to see.
The problem? Kids have no clue how to process this stuff. It’s like being handed a textbook on relationships when you’re in 3rd grade, but the textbook is full of words like “ghosting” and “catfishing.” They don’t get it—and they probably shouldn’t. That’s the issue with exposure to mature content too early: it messes with their heads and changes how they view the world. One day they’re playing Minecraft, and the next, they’re Googling “What is this thing I saw in that weird video?” Uh-oh.
The Stats and Trends (AKA the Real Numbers)
So, how bad is it really? According to a 2023 report by Common Sense Media (which, side note, I’m pretty sure every parent should have bookmarked), 81% of kids ages 8-12 now have smartphones. That’s like handing a kid a tiny device that’s basically a portal to every single thing on the internet—good and bad. And no, you can’t put that genie back in the bottle. Almost half of these kids have reported seeing something online they felt was too mature or inappropriate for them.
But wait—it gets worse. By the time kids are teens (13-17), they’ve basically seen everything. Around 70-80% of them say they’ve encountered sexual content, even when they weren’t looking for it. So, in the middle of a Fortnite match, or scrolling through TikTok to see the latest dance challenge, they might end up seeing content that makes them go, “What… was that?!” This is all before they even have a driver’s license, mind you.
Why Does It Matter?
Here’s where things get a little darker. Kids who are exposed to violent or sexual content at a young age can have some serious issues later on. Think of it like giving a kid a weird chemistry set and expecting them to build a rocket—except they’re more likely to blow up the whole lab. Kids exposed to violent content can become desensitized, meaning they won’t react to real-world violence the same way, which isn’t great. Or, they might start copying what they see, and that’s when you get the kid at school who thinks it’s funny to imitate fight scenes from movies.
Same with sexual content: early exposure can make kids grow up with really messed-up views of relationships and intimacy. Suddenly, their idea of “how to treat someone” is based on a reality TV show or a music video. Great. Now, they’re trying to use “smooth” pickup lines like “Are you from Paris? ‘Cause Eiffel for you” on their classmate. (And no, it’s not cute.)
The Kids Are Exposed (Whether They Want To Be or Not)
So, how is this happening? Well, a lot of the stuff kids are seeing is totally accidental. YouTube, TikTok, Instagram—these platforms are like giant digital malls, and even if a kid only wants to go to the toy section, they might get distracted by the shiny, disturbing stuff in the corner. And because there’s always autoplay, that one innocent video about Minecraft can turn into a rabbit hole of “Why did I watch that?” before you can blink.
Here’s a fun fact: 27% of children under 8 have already come across inappropriate content online. How? No clue. But they did. It’s like if you went to the grocery store for some apples and accidentally ended up in the adult section of Netflix. They didn’t ask for it. It just… happened.
Tools to the Rescue (Like, for Real)
Okay, so how do we protect kids from all this? Thankfully, there are tools out there that can help parents keep the internet a little less… wild. Apps like Qustodio, Bark, and Norton Family are like digital watchdogs for your kids. These apps can block harmful websites, monitor social media accounts, and even send you alerts when your kid is getting into some sketchy stuff online.
You can also use built-in features on your phone and computer. For example, Google Family Link and Apple Screen Time let you control what your kids can see and do online. Want to make sure your kid isn’t watching late-night YouTube videos about “mystery boxes” that lead to deep, dark corners of the internet? You can block that! Both Apple and Google let you set filters, restrict access to certain apps, and limit screen time, so you don’t end up with a child who’s glued to TikTok at 2 AM.
On social media platforms, there are settings that allow you to set content filters—TikTok, for example, has a “Restricted Mode” and a new feature to warn users when they’re about to watch content that’s flagged as inappropriate. But remember, no tool is perfect. Kids are tech-savvy these days, and they can often find workarounds. So, you gotta stay on your toes.
Tips for Parents (Without Losing Your Mind)
So, how do you actually talk to your kid about this without turning into the “bad guy” who ruins their fun? It’s all about balance. Be cool, but also set rules. First, have the conversation—seriously. Don’t wait for the internet to drop a bomb on your kid and make it awkward. Sit down and say, “Hey, the internet is full of crazy stuff. Some of it’s awesome, and some of it’s… not for you.” It’s not the funnest convo, but it’s necessary.
Also, get your child involved in setting up parental controls. If they feel like they have a say in the process, they’re more likely to be open about their online experiences. Set up content restrictions, but also give them some privacy and independence, so they don’t feel like they’re being watched 24/7.
And hey, don’t just rely on apps and filters. Keep the conversation going. Check in with your kid, ask them what they’re seeing, and be involved in their online life. If you see something fishy on their account or phone, talk to them about it, and help them understand what’s okay and what’s not.
The Big Concerns (AKA The Scary Stuff)
The thing is, when kids are exposed to this stuff early, it doesn’t always have a quick fix. It can affect their mental health and how they view the world around them. They might grow up thinking violence is just part of life, or that relationships are about drama and unrealistic expectations. The long-term effects can stick with them, and it’s harder to undo that damage once it’s done.
But don’t panic too much. With the right tools, boundaries, and ongoing conversations, kids can still have a positive, safe experience online. Just remember: as funny as it is when kids get caught watching a “Minecraft Fail” video, it’s not so cute when it’s something they’ll actually need therapy for later. So, stay vigilant, be chill, and protect those eyes from the internet’s wild side.
In the end, it’s about keeping things in balance. Keep an eye on what they’re doing online, but don’t be so strict that they end up learning about the real world from their friends instead.
The views expressed in this article should not be considered as a substitute for a physician’s advice. Always make sure to seek a doctor or a professional’s advice before proceeding with the home treatment plan.
Imagine a world where most kids get their first smartphone at age 11. That’s right, before they even hit their teens, they’re stepping onto the grand stage of social media! 🎭
📊 A whopping 95% of teens (13-17) are YouTube stars-in-training
📸 67% are TikTok dancing queens and kings
📱 62% are Instagram influencers-to-be
👻 59% are Snapchat ghosters
But wait, there’s more! Nearly 75% of students use social media as their primary news source. Talk about being in the know! 🗞️
⏰ Time Flies When You’re Having Fun
Hold onto your hats, folks! Here’s how much time kids are spending on screens daily:
🧒 Ages 8-12: 4 hours and 44 minutes
🧑🦱 Ages 13-18: 7 hours and 22 minutes
And that’s not even counting school work! 📚
🎢 The Emotional Roller Coaster
Social media can be a wild ride for our young digital natives:
🌈 It can be a rainbow of connections and communities
🌩️ But it can also bring storm clouds of anxiety and depression
Did you know that spending more than 3 hours a day on social media might put teens at higher risk for mental health issues? Yikes! 😱
🦸♀️ What can you as a Parent Do
🕵️♂️ Be a social media detective: Know what apps your kids are using
🚦 Set digital traffic lights: Create tech-free zones and times
🗣️ Keep the conversation flowing: Talk openly about online activities
🛡️ Equip them with a digital shield: Teach online safety and privacy
⏳ Master the art of time management: Use screen time monitoring apps
💡 Fun Fact
🚀 Almost half of 7th graders feel the need to respond to texts at lightning speed (within 10 minutes)!
🙈 45% of kids (ages 9-12) have accidentally seen things online that made them go “Oops, my eyes!” 👀
🎭 37% of young people have faced the digital playground bully
Obesity and related health issues: Childhood obesity rates have increased significantly in recent decades, leading to a rise in associated health problems such as type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, and sleep apnea. We are concerned about the long-term impact of obesity on children’s health and work to promote healthy eating habits and physical activity.
Mental health issues: There has been a significant increase in mental health problems among children and adolescents, including anxiety, depression, and suicidal ideation. We are focused on identifying and addressing these issues early on, as well as promoting mental health support and resources.
Vaccine hesitancy: Despite the overwhelming scientific evidence supporting the safety and efficacy of childhood vaccinations, some parents remain hesitant or refuse to vaccinate their children. We are concerned about the potential resurgence of vaccine-preventable diseases and work to educate parents about the importance of vaccination.
Substance abuse: The use of substances such as alcohol, tobacco, and e-cigarettes among adolescents is a significant concern for pediatricians. We aim to promote prevention strategies and provide support for those struggling with substance abuse.
Screen time and technology use: Excessive screen time and the impact of technology on children’s development, sleep patterns, and social skills are areas of concern for pediatricians. They encourage parents to set limits and promote a healthy balance with other activities.
Environmental exposures: We are increasingly aware of the potential impact of environmental factors, such as air pollution, lead exposure, and chemical contaminants, on children’s health. We advocate for policies and practices that protect children from harmful exposures.
Access to healthcare: Ensuring that all children have access to quality healthcare services, regardless of their socioeconomic status or geographic location, is an ongoing challenge for us and the healthcare system as a whole.
The views expressed in this article should not be considered as a substitute for a physician’s advice. Always make sure to seek a doctor or a professional’s advice before proceeding with the home treatment plan.
Prevalence: According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the prevalence of mental health disorders among children aged 6-17 years has risen from 16.5% in 2016 to 22.2% in 2020.
Depression and anxiety: The rate of depression and anxiety among children and adolescents has doubled since the COVID-19 pandemic began, according to a study published in JAMA Pediatrics in 2022.
Suicide: Suicide is the second leading cause of death among individuals aged 10-24 in the United States, according to the CDC. The suicide rate among individuals aged 10-24 increased by 57.4% between 2007 and 2018.
Emergency department visits: The number of children and adolescents visiting emergency departments for mental health concerns increased by 24% between 2011 and 2015, according to a study published in Pediatrics in 2018.
Eating disorders: The prevalence of eating disorders, such as anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa, has increased among children and adolescents in recent years, with a study published in the American Journal of Public Health estimating that up to 3.8% of adolescents may have an eating disorder.
ADHD: The prevalence of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) among children aged 3-17 has increased from 6.1% in 1997 to 10.2% in 2019, according to the CDC.
In addition, children and adolescents face several social health challenges that can significantly impact their overall well-being and development. Here are some of the major social health challenges faced by kids today:
Bullying and cyberbullying: Bullying, both in-person and online (cyberbullying), can have severe consequences on a child’s mental health, self-esteem, and academic performance. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, about 20% of students aged 12-18 experienced bullying at school in 2019.
Social media and internet use: Excessive use of social media and the internet can lead to issues such as cyberbullying, body image concerns, sleep disturbances, and decreased face-to-face interactions, which can negatively impact a child’s social development and mental health.
Peer pressure: Children and adolescents often face pressure from their peers to engage in risky behaviors, such as substance abuse, unhealthy eating habits, or risky sexual behavior, which can have long-term consequences on their health and well-being.
Lack of social support: Children who lack a strong support system, whether from family, friends, or community, may struggle with social isolation, low self-esteem, and difficulty developing healthy relationships.
Childhood trauma: Exposure to traumatic events, such as abuse, neglect, or violence, can have significant and long-lasting impacts on a child’s mental health, emotional regulation, and social development.
Poverty and socioeconomic disparities: Children living in poverty or low-income households often face additional challenges, such as limited access to resources, educational opportunities, and healthcare services, which can affect their overall well-being and social development.
Discrimination and marginalization: Children from minority or marginalized communities may face discrimination, stigma, and limited opportunities, which can negatively impact their self-esteem, mental health, and social integration.
Talk to your doctor if your child has any concerns.
The views expressed in this article should not be considered as a substitute for a physician’s advice. Always make sure to seek a doctor or a professional’s advice before proceeding with the home treatment plan.
Raising children can be a rewarding yet challenging experience for parents.
Here are some of the top problems that parents commonly face when raising a child:
Balancing work and family life
Dealing with tantrums and behavioral issues
Establishing healthy routines and schedules
Encouraging good eating habits and nutrition
Promoting physical activity and limiting screen time
Fostering emotional intelligence and self-regulation
Nurturing self-esteem and confidence
Instilling values, morals, and ethical principles
Managing sibling rivalries and conflicts
Addressing academic struggles and learning difficulties
Navigating social and peer pressures
Promoting independence and responsibility
Ensuring safety and security
Dealing with sleep issues and bedtime battles
Communicating effectively and building trust
Setting appropriate boundaries and limits
Managing finances and providing for the child’s needs
Handling developmental milestones and transitions
Fostering creativity and curiosity
Addressing mental health concerns and emotional well-being
Navigating co-parenting challenges (in case of separation or divorce)
Juggling extracurricular activities and commitments
Encouraging resilience and coping skills
Preparing children for the digital age and online safety
Striking a balance between discipline and nurturing
Every family and every child is unique, so adapt these tips to your specific circumstances and needs. Here are some tips that can help parents manage the challenges of raising a child:
Prioritize self-care: Make time for yourself, even if it’s just a few minutes a day. This will help you recharge and be a more patient and present parent.
Build a support system: Reach out to family, friends, or support groups for advice, emotional support, or practical help when needed.
Communicate effectively: Practice active listening and have open, age-appropriate conversations with your child. Establish a positive and respectful communication pattern.
Be consistent: Establish clear rules, routines, and consequences, and follow through consistently. Consistency helps children feel secure and know what to expect.
Embrace flexibility: Children’s needs and circumstances change, so be prepared to adapt your parenting style and strategies accordingly.
Manage stress and emotions: Learn and practice stress-management techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, or exercise. Model healthy ways to express and cope with emotions.
Seek professional help: Don’t hesitate to consult professionals, such as pediatricians, child psychologists, or counselors, if you need guidance or support in addressing specific challenges.
Learn about child development: Understanding the typical developmental stages and milestones can help you have realistic expectations and respond appropriately to your child’s needs.
Involve your child: Age-appropriately involve your child in decision-making and problem-solving processes. This can foster a sense of responsibility and cooperation.
Celebrate successes: Recognize and celebrate your child’s achievements, no matter how small. This can boost their confidence and motivation.
Practice patience and forgiveness: Parenting is a learning process, and mistakes happen. Be patient with yourself and your child, and forgive yourself when you make mistakes.
Maintain a positive attitude: While challenges are inevitable, maintaining a positive and optimistic outlook can help you navigate them more effectively.
Seek balance: Strive for a healthy balance between work, family, and personal time. Prioritize what’s most important and learn to let go of perfection.
Embrace quality time: Engage in activities that allow you to connect with your child and create positive memories together.
The views expressed in this article should not be considered as a substitute for a physician’s advice. Always make sure to seek a doctor or a professional’s advice before proceeding with the home treatment plan.
Once upon a time, in the land of the free and the home of the brave, the people of America decided to embrace a new national pastime: getting as big as possible! Yep, you heard it right, folks. The good ol’ U.S. of A. now holds the title for the highest rate of obesity in the developed world. Forget baseball and apple pie, it’s all about super-sized portions and couch surfing!
According to the experts, a whopping 38.4% of American adults are officially considered obese as of December 2023. That’s a 6% increase since 2019, before the COVID-19 pandemic gave everyone an excuse to let their waistlines expand faster than a hot air balloon.
But wait, there’s more! The annual medical cost of treating this epidemic of extra weight is a staggering $173 billion. That’s a lot of cheeseburgers and fries, folks!
Now, you might think that the folks living in the big city would be the ones packing on the pounds, but nope, it’s actually the folks in the South and Midwest who are leading the charge. Looks like country fried steak and gravy are just too delicious to resist.
But it’s not all bad news. Turns out, the more educated you are, the less likely you are to be a member of the “super-size me” club. So, if you want to stay slim and trim, better hit the books instead of the buffet.
And let’s not forget the little ones. Yep, even the kids are getting in on the action, with 1 in 5 children and teens being classified as obese. Looks like those Happy Meal toys are just too tempting to resist.
So, there you have it, folks. America’s love affair with all things big and round is only getting stronger. But don’t worry, there’s still time to turn it all around. Just put down the cheeseburger, lace up those running shoes, and get ready to join the “skinny jeans” club. After all, who needs a badge of honor when you can have a badge of self-control?
Ah, the mysteries of the extra pounds! It turns out, it’s not just about shoving too many cheeseburgers down your gullet. Nope, there’s a whole host of sneaky culprits behind this waistline-expanding epidemic.
First, let’s talk about those pesky habits of ours. Turns out, if we don’t get enough shut-eye and move our bodies like hyperactive squirrels, our waistlines tend to, well, expand. Who knew?
But wait, there’s more! Some illnesses, like Cushing’s disease, can make us pack on the pounds faster than a sumo wrestler at a buffet. And don’t even get me started on those tricky drugs, like steroids and antidepressants – they’re like the weight gain ninjas, sneaking up on us when we least expect it.
And let’s not forget the role that our environment plays in this whole thing. Yep, even the places we hang out, like daycares, schools, and our neighborhoods, can influence how much we eat and how much we move. It’s like the world is conspiring against our svelte dreams!
But fear not, my friends! There’s hope yet. All we gotta do is start eating a rainbow of veggies and fruits, swap out those fatty and sugary treats for some lean protein and whole grains, and make sure we’re getting our daily dose of physical activity. And for the love of all things holy, let’s make sure we’re getting enough shut-eye!
So, let’s put on our thinking caps, get creative in the kitchen, and maybe incorporate a few more jumping jacks into our daily routines.
The views expressed in this article should not be considered as a substitute for a physician’s advice. Always make sure to seek a doctor or a professional’s advice before proceeding with the home treatment plan.
Are you calm or hostile? Stressed or social? Optimistic or pessimistic? Recent studies have found that our personality determines and affects our health. Our personality can kill us or prolong our lives, it can give us heart disease or strengthen our immune system.
Personalities Types
Personality types
The hostile type
The main characteristics of Type A personality are impatience and hostility. These may increase the risk of heart disease. Hostile people tend to overeat, smoke excessively, and lack physical activity much more than other types. Hostility increases the chance of being overweight in middle age, blood pressure, and high cholesterol. A recent study on the subject found that hostile types tend to develop irregular heartbeat and die before the age of 50. Most of these problems can be related to high levels of cortisol (the stress hormone), as well as inflammation of the coronary artery walls (which supply blood to the heart), increasing the risk of a heart attack.
The key is to learn how to communicate clearly and how to control anger and negative emotions. When you get angry, try asking yourself four questions: Is this really important to me? Does what I feel match reality? Do I have the power to change the situation in a positive way? Is taking such action worth the effort?
Meditation, deep breathing and yoga can also help.
The impulsive type
While hostile type A’s are often characterized by competitiveness, a desire to succeed, a sense of urgency and stress, and a tendency towards uncalculated risks, even non-hostile types can suffer from a similar impulsivity that isn’t good for health. The impulsive type is one that does not base decisions on rationality; they may identify an opportunity as being exclusively fun without weighing the pros and cons. The impulsive type may ignore health risks or not take them into account, thereby harming themselves. This personality type can lead to all kinds of harmful activities such as alcohol and drug abuse as well as compulsive gambling.
The calm type
If you’re a Type B, it means that you are calm, take life easy and face stress without losing it. This indicates a high quality of life, and a low probability of having panic attacks, heart disease and infections caused by a low immune system. The more relaxed a person is, the better their health since the ability to cope with stress is a sure recipe for longevity. Researchers say relaxation helps the heart, digestive system, and blood function properly.
The extroverted type
Extroverts who are involved in community life and have strong social connections, reap health benefits. An examination of 148 studies published in the online journal PLoS Medicine found that adults who live rich social lives improve their chances of survival by about 50 percent. A study published in 2009 on behavioral science perspectives found that widespread social support improves individual coping skills, promotes healthy behavior and observance of a medical schedule. It was found that the connection to people reduces stress and improves the function of the immune system. One of the most prominent explanations for this influence stems from elements of involvement in the lives of others and acceptance of a position. For example: How can I feel bad for myself when this ‘so and so’ is going through this.
The people pleaser type
Those who are eager to please are type C and are characterized mainly by conformity and passivity. It can be good when they are required to demonstrate high discipline, but most times they do not initiate treatment or help. People pleasers tend to accept their fate as unavoidable and fall easily into despair and helplessness. It means that others must motivate them and make sure they take care of themselves; otherwise, they simply will not keep their health. If they have a medical problem they may complain, hoping someone else will offer them a solution, or they will remain so passive that they won’t admit they’re hurting, even if the situation is severe.
The depressive and stressed type
People who are stuck on negative emotions are afraid to express themselves in social situations, and compared to optimistic people, they have a threefold increased risk of heart problems, according to a recent study in the journal Circulation: Cardiovascular Quality and Outcomes.
Type D personality was defined in the 1990s as characterized by negative feelings of depression, anxiety, stress, anger, and loneliness. These types of people will often expect the worst, have difficulty acquiring friends and often suffer from low self-esteem and over-judgment. They are tense, chronically angry, and overactive in stressful situations. They tend to hide their feelings, because of fear of rejection. The depressive type is highly to suffer from obesity and compulsive eating, as well as drug use.
Because they have no outlet for stress and stress, they suffer from high levels of cortisol, which increases blood pressure and can cause chronic inflammation of the circulatory system, heart failure, and even death. The problem is that they often prefer not to discuss worrying symptoms with their doctor.
The optimistic type
A study published in 2010 in Clinical Practice & Epidemiology in Mental Health concluded 15 years of tracking the health of 500 men; according to it, the chances of optimistic people dying from heart-related health events are 50 percent lower than that of pessimists.
In principle, optimists enjoy a high quality of life and may be considered “more resilient” in coping with stress and life challenges. If they encounter a problem, they are able to cope with it better and therefore suffer less from symptoms of stress, depression, and anxiety. In contrast, the “glass half empty” types tend to be depressed and anxious.
The researchers note, of course, that optimism should also be proportionate, as optimists can sometimes think of themselves as invincible.
The self-healer type
The self-healing personality as Howard Friedman, a professor of psychology at the University of California, calls it, is expressed by people who are curious, strong, attentive, and conscientious. These characteristics are expressed in the joy of life, emotional balance, and strong social ties. These positive emotions prevent hormonal responses of stress and encourage the adoption of healthy behavior patterns, such as adherence to consistent physical activity, proper nutrition, and avoidance of cigarettes, drugs, and alcohol.
To conclude
Even if you can’t unequivocally identify your personality type, you can probably identify a tendency. Ask yourself how your temperament affects your health condition – if it contributes to it, or on the contrary if it detracts from it. If you find that your health is suffering because of your personality it’s time to take matters into your hands and take care of yourself!
The views expressed in this article should not be considered as a substitute for a physician’s advice. Always make sure to seek a doctor or a professional’s advice before proceeding with the home treatment plan.
We live in extraordinarily good times. But quite often we “follow the herd” and adopt hollow values and misconceptions that place more emphasis on everything that isn’t important. If we know how to identify these behaviors and learn why they are so harmful to our personal well-being, we can make our lives and the world better.
Why is this important?
Our children learn more by watching us then by listening what we say to them. So, lead by example.
Parenting
Perspective 1. A successful person needs an apartment, a car, and a new cell phone
Understanding this perspective is critical because many parents mistakenly believe that they aren’t good parents if they cannot provide for everything that their child wants. Consumer culture is a very large part of our modern society, so if we meet someone who owns their own apartment, car and the newest mobile phone, we’ll probably see them as successful. But does such property make a person successful? What about their relationship status? Their debt? Their ability to enjoy life? All of these are of no less importance than the things they own, but nevertheless, we hardly think about them… This perception is important to change, because the things we acquire, even if they are evidence of being in an excellent economic situation and not just reckless purchases leading to debt, are not what define us or the people around us.
The key to remember is that “fulfill the needs of your child. Not their wants“
Perspective 2. Life needs to be documented on social networks
Oh Millennials! These are the people who take pictures of all their meals before they start eating, take mirror selfies regularly, and generally are unable to disconnect from their Facebook account or their Instagram. These people are so concerned about nurturing themselves in the virtual space that they sometimes hurt themselves and the people around them in a variety of ways, some of which are felt more and some less.
At the most serious levels, such behavior can lead to the development of depression and narcissism, which is why it’s very important that we all work, collectively and individually, on reducing this habit significantly. Just ask your family members or friends to stop doing these things, and if they’re evasive or a reluctant to respond, confront them with the fact that they are damaging your relationship and your time in favor of meaningless.
Perspective 3. We all need to be celebrities
More and more people, especially young people, try to live their lives as celebrities do, almost imitating them. This is a very familiar and negative phenomenon that many social researchers and psychologists have tried to explain and change, and it is very easy to understand why. First, it’s clear to all that the average young person doesn’t have the time, the money, or the support that would allow for the wild and exaggerated lifestyle certain celebrities appear to live. Second, the inability to perfectly mimic the example that celebrities exhibit causes many to feel miserable and develop feelings of inferiority. To avoid this, all we have to do is tell ourselves and our children that we need to be who we are. True, long-term happiness won’t exist in people trying to be something or someone they aren’t.
Perspective 4. Parenting is a competition
Many parents think they need to do everything for their child: Buy them the best new toys, guide them at every crossroads in their lives, etc. With all these demands, when do you have time as parents to spend with the whole family walking around the neighborhood, or maybe getting involved in an activity that helps you recharge?
The simple answer, of course, is that you won’t have time if this is how you live your life. When people don’t devote time to these activities, they hurt themselves and their families significantly. These anxious parents should be reminded that parenting isn’t a competition with the other parents at school. If they see that another family has a better stroller or takes professional family photographs, they don’t have to be jealous of them and aspire to do the same things – you can simply compliment them and move on in life.
Perspective 5. Academic degrees are the key to success
Over the years, our society has developed a certain obsession with academic degrees. But the reality today is that there is no truth to the claim that a person without a degree is less successful than those with an advanced education of one kind or another, and in many professions where the salary is high and the conditions are good there are no such requirements. Of course, it is important to learn and acquire knowledge that will enable a person to make a living, but we shouldn’t put down honest fields of work that may not be as prestigious as others. Because without them, and the people who chose them, we wouldn’t be able to live the way we do.
Above all, remember, your child is watching you and learning from you. Be kind.
The views expressed in this article should not be considered as a substitute for a physician’s advice. Always make sure to seek a doctor or a professional’s advice before proceeding with the home treatment plan.
Our kids are multi-lingual. Today, with the development of global international culture, more and more parents want to give their young children as many language skills as possible – not only one native tongue but also other languages that can be used for the better in the future; for those who aren’t native English speakers, English is, of course, usually at the top of the list, but your native tongue can be on the list of languages you’d want to teach.
First, a statistic: Approximately 20% of children in the United States speak a language other than English at home, with Spanish as the most common non-English language. There are many more bilingual or multilingual persons than there are monolingual. More than half the world’s population is bilingual.
Myths of raising multi-lingual kids
Our desire as parents is to help our children become bi or even a multi-lingual, as early as possible, however, the fears in doing this often outweigh the desire – a lot of myths revolve around the issue of bilingual and multi-lingual child rearing which bother many parents who ultimately decide to abandon this worthy goal. In order to debunk these myths and show that there is no truth behind them, we will present you with the main ones and explain why they are wrong and why it’s worthwhile and recommended to overcome these fears and begin the process of teaching your child more languages at an early age.
MYTH 1. Learning two languages simultaneously will confuse the child
Many of those who argue against the introduction of an additional language cling to the myth that the extra language can confuse a child leading to them using both languages in one sentence. But it is important that you know that although this may happen, it isn’t really harmful; On the contrary, it is an act of ingenuity on the part of the child, and an intelligent use of all the tools at their disposal in order to convey an idea and to convey a certain message in a clearer and understandable way.
Experts agree that the mixing of languages is temporary, and eventually, as the vocabulary of the child in the two languages learned will increase, and the more exposed they are to both languages, the habit will disappear. We, as adults, also tend to mix languages unintentionally when we don’t know how to say a particular term in a single language or when a word in another language sounds better or more accurate in describing a situation. If you occasionally mix English and Spanish, for example, when you talk to each other at home or around your child, you can’t expect your child not to do so – and as mentioned, it doesn’t indicate any shortcoming or problem.
MYTH 2. Raising a bilingual child leads to a delay in speech development
Following the previous myth, there are those who argue that not only will confusion be the plight of those who try to teach their child two languages at the same time, but also a general delay in the development of speech and communication. This concern is based on a number of incidents that have occurred, but the delay has always been temporary, and this isn’t true for everyone. Unfortunately, many parents who are concerned about language development difficulties stop the learning process and return to teaching their child only one language.
Dr. Ellen Stubbe Kester, founder and president of an institute which provides speech therapy for bilingual children, says that scientific research indicates that bilingualism does not delay speech development or language acquisition, even if your child has been diagnosed with speech delay at some level or another, Kester adds that studies have shown that children with delayed development of bilingual language were eventually able to acquire languages with the same level of competence as language-delayed children raised as single-language speakers.
MYTH 3. Children absorb the language easily and are able to become bilingual without any effort at all
With there being those who think that learning a second language may harm the process of acquiring language – a myth that, as we see isn’t true, there are those who believe that learning a second language is a very simple process for the child. They believe that all that is needed is to talk to the child in the language they want to teach, or to just place them in front of different sources of that language, for example, T.V shows and music and they will absorb it on their own and wish to speak it without any significant educational intervention.
This is an unrealistic idea that is ly to lead to insignificant results; The process of teaching a new language should not be a heavy burden on your shoulders, However, it is important to present the child with the correct language and structure, as well as to persist in proper and consistent learning, whether in everyday conversations with the same language or traditional means of study. The idea is that in the end, you must expose your child to the language in a way that is meaningful to them, this includes interesting learning methods that relate to their daily life and routine.
MYTH 4. There is a point where it’s too late to raise your child bilingual
Many parents believe that there is a certain stage in childhood after which it is too late to try to raise their child bilingual. Therefore, if their child has crossed that age, they will not try to teach them a second language. But you should know that this is a mistake because all professionals and experts indicate that in most cases there are three optimal times for teaching a child a second language.
It is true that the best stage to impart to the child the knowledge of the additional language is from the moment of birth until the age of 3 – since this is the period when they acquire their first language and their mind is still open and able to be molded – but the 4-7 age range is also suitable for this purpose, as at this age they can still process multiple languages, that is to build a second language system next to the first language and learn how to speak both languages well. The third window of opportunity is between the age of 8 and puberty. After puberty, studies show that new languages are stored in a separate area of the brain thus making language acquisition at this age much more difficult, yet still possible.
MYTH 5. Parents must master both languages to teach their child both
In a house where two parents speak only one language, or only one of them speaks the other language they want to impart to a child, it is questionable whether it is even possible to raise a bilingual child. The obvious question of parents who don’t know a second language is: “If we speak one language among ourselves, how is it possible for a child to develop a second language?” But know that this is definitely something that can be done – today there are many professional aids that can help you teach your child a second language.
Of course you should take into consideration that if you decide to teach your child a second language without being able to speak it yourself, you may also have to learn some parts of it to help your child absorb it better – but you don’t need to speak it fluently; Movies, books, and of course, classes and professionals who specialize in language learning for children can be of great help to you and contribute to the development of the additional language in your child even without you mastering it as a second language yourself.
MYTH 6. Only very smart children can be bilingual
This is a myth that needs to be refuted right away: every child can be bilingual, regardless of their IQ or intelligence. When you teach your child a second language you should not be concerned about whether they are “smart enough” to go through the process, but only whether you are willing to make some lifestyle changes to make it happen.
It might be helpful to know that children are actually born ready to learn languages, and don’t need any special intellect or gift to do so; As we have already explained to you, a young brain has an advantage in learning languages more than any other tendency. It is clear that in later stages, some will have higher language learning abilities than others, but this is a skill most children have at young ages.
MYTH 7. Children should be fluent in one language before learning another
Many parents raising bilingual kids worry that two languages at once will put too much pressure on their children. They think that by waiting until they are fluent in one language it will be much easier for them to learn another. However as children get older, they become aware of the languages. This means that they need to “learn” a language, rather than acquire it naturally. It is widely agreed that the younger the child learns a language, the easier it is for them to learn, with the “Window of Opportunity” being between birth and five years old. By waiting until your child has learned one language to start a new one, you may miss this window.
MYTH 8 If my child has developmental challenges or learning disabilities, then learning a second language will make it even harder for them.
Wrong . Studies that compared bilingual children with SLI (specific language impairment) to monolingual children with SLI found that the bilingual kids showed equivalent levels of language-related strengths and weaknesses to the monolingual group. The same goes for children with developmental disorders, such as Autism.
MYTH 9 If I’m not speaking my mother tongue to my children, they’ll get the same strong accent and make the same mistakes as me.
Having an accent is not an indicator of language fluency. Secondly, accents change over our childhood and adolescence, and in many instances do not stabilize until the early 20s. Once kids start mingling with other children (around ages 2 or 3) they’ll start to learn their accent from their friends.
The views expressed in this article should not be considered as a substitute for a physician’s advice. Always make sure to seek a doctor or a professional’s advice before proceeding with the home treatment plan.
Thanks to a friend, here is a lovely anecdote on spiritual living
Potato Chips
A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey.
When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old man. He was sitting in the park, just staring at some pigeons. The boy sat down next to him and opened his suitcase. He was about to take a drink from his root beer when he noticed that the old man looked hungry, so he offered him some chips. He gratefully accepted it and smiled at him.
His smile was so pretty that the boy wanted to see it again, so he offered him a root beer. Again, he smiled at him. The boy was delighted!
They sat there all afternoon eating and smiling, but they never said a word.
As twilight approached, the boy realized how tired he was and he got up to leave; but before he had gone more than a few steps, he turned around, ran back to the old man, and gave him a hug. He gave him his biggest smile ever..
When the boy opened the door to his own house a short time later, his mother was surprised by the look of joy on his face. She asked him, "What did you do today that made you so happy?"
He replied, "I had lunch with God." But before his mother could respond, he added, "You know what? He’s got the most beautiful smile I’ve ever seen!"
Meanwhile, the old man, also radiant with joy, returned to his home. His son was stunned by the look of peace on his face and he asked, "dad, what did you do today that made you so happy?"
He replied "I ate potato chips in the park with God." However, before his son responded, he added, "You know, he’s much younger than I expected."
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime! Embrace all equally!
Success is begins in the mind. One has to be a believer, first, if one wishes to be an achiever. Never under-estimate yourself. You have no idea how often can you surprise yourself. So to begin with, let’s get in the belief, "I Can."
2. Clarity of Vision:
There is no point running around without knowing where one wants to reach. you must get your job cut out. Greatest achievers in the world have been visionaries. Know exactly what you are best at and give it your best shot.
3. Setting the Right Goals:
The goals should be realistic .The goals should be achievable ,and yet challenging enough – neither too easy nor too difficult -something in the middle.
4. Be focused:
If the sun’s rays are focused on a piece of paper with a lens, the intensity of the concentrated energy burns the paper. Focus on your objective will enhance the intensity of the effects of your efforts.
5. No Short Cuts to Success:
There are no short cuts to success. Divide your overall goals into smaller targets. Divide your monthly plans into weekly and weekly plans into daily plans and see how simple can things be.
6. Take Risks:
Without any risk no progress is possible. Life comes to a stable standstill. People who take chances are the people who get ahead in life. The only way to reduce risk is to take risks.
7. Take the Initiative:
People who take the initiative make the most of their lives. Proactive people do not wait for success to happen; rather they make it happen. As they say, ‘JUST DO IT’.
8. Never Hesitate to Struggle:
No one has ever climbed a mountain just by looking at it. Struggle, hard struggle, is a key to success.
9. Own Responsibility:
Failure to hit the bull’s eye is never the fault of the target. People, who own complete responsibility of their lives, are the people who make the most of it.
10. Never Give Up:
Many people who failed in life, where those who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. Success demands extra-ordinary amount of perseverance. Never, never, give up.
How you speak is as important as what is said. An Interesting Spiritual thought in Sanskrit
Satyam bruyat priyam bruyat na bruyat satyam apriyam
priyam ca nanrutam bruyat esha dharmah sanatanah
Speak truth in such a way that it is pleasing to others. Never speak truth, which is unpleasant to others.
Never speak untruth, which might be pleasant. This is the path of eternal morality.
To speak truth is an eternal value irrespective of time and place. But the expression of truth should be accompanied by two conditions.
Firstly, it should be presented in a loving manner and secondly it should be spoken for the betterment of others.
A fable to illustrate this
The King And The Astrologer
A king produced his horoscope before an astrologer and asked him about his future. The astrologer pondered the positions of the planets and consulted the Stars and finally gave his verdict: “Maharaja, all your relatives will die before you, you will perform their obsequies with your own hands”.
The king became furious. He was very much attached to his family and could not tolerate such a verdict. The king at once ordered that the poor astrologer be imprisoned for life.
Then the king sent for another astrologer. This man was more tactful than the first. He found that the previous astrologer’s readings were absolutely correct. So, he tactfully put the same truth the other way round. He said:
“Maharaja, you have a very long life. You will live longer than all your relatives”.
This also meant that all his relatives would die while the king was alive. The same fact had been very tactfully. The king was highly pleased with the astrologer and gave him rich and costly presents.
Therefore it is said that even while telling the truth, one should tell it in a pleasant manner. Even a truth should not be told in a way that will hurt the feelings of others.
