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A parent’s challenge

Raising children can be a rewarding yet challenging experience for parents.

Here are some of the top problems that parents commonly face when raising a child:

  1. Balancing work and family life
  2. Dealing with tantrums and behavioral issues
  3. Establishing healthy routines and schedules
  4. Encouraging good eating habits and nutrition
  5. Promoting physical activity and limiting screen time
  6. Fostering emotional intelligence and self-regulation
  7. Nurturing self-esteem and confidence
  8. Instilling values, morals, and ethical principles
  9. Managing sibling rivalries and conflicts
  10. Addressing academic struggles and learning difficulties
  11. Navigating social and peer pressures
  12. Promoting independence and responsibility
  13. Ensuring safety and security
  14. Dealing with sleep issues and bedtime battles
  15. Communicating effectively and building trust
  16. Setting appropriate boundaries and limits
  17. Managing finances and providing for the child’s needs
  18. Handling developmental milestones and transitions
  19. Fostering creativity and curiosity
  20. Addressing mental health concerns and emotional well-being
  21. Navigating co-parenting challenges (in case of separation or divorce)
  22. Juggling extracurricular activities and commitments
  23. Encouraging resilience and coping skills
  24. Preparing children for the digital age and online safety
  25. Striking a balance between discipline and nurturing

Every family and every child is unique, so adapt these tips to your specific circumstances and needs. Here are some tips that can help parents manage the challenges of raising a child:

  1. Prioritize self-care: Make time for yourself, even if it’s just a few minutes a day. This will help you recharge and be a more patient and present parent.
  2. Build a support system: Reach out to family, friends, or support groups for advice, emotional support, or practical help when needed.
  3. Communicate effectively: Practice active listening and have open, age-appropriate conversations with your child. Establish a positive and respectful communication pattern.
  4. Be consistent: Establish clear rules, routines, and consequences, and follow through consistently. Consistency helps children feel secure and know what to expect.
  5. Embrace flexibility: Children’s needs and circumstances change, so be prepared to adapt your parenting style and strategies accordingly.
  6. Manage stress and emotions: Learn and practice stress-management techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, or exercise. Model healthy ways to express and cope with emotions.
  7. Seek professional help: Don’t hesitate to consult professionals, such as pediatricians, child psychologists, or counselors, if you need guidance or support in addressing specific challenges.
  8. Learn about child development: Understanding the typical developmental stages and milestones can help you have realistic expectations and respond appropriately to your child’s needs.
  9. Involve your child: Age-appropriately involve your child in decision-making and problem-solving processes. This can foster a sense of responsibility and cooperation.
  10. Celebrate successes: Recognize and celebrate your child’s achievements, no matter how small. This can boost their confidence and motivation.
  11. Practice patience and forgiveness: Parenting is a learning process, and mistakes happen. Be patient with yourself and your child, and forgive yourself when you make mistakes.
  12. Maintain a positive attitude: While challenges are inevitable, maintaining a positive and optimistic outlook can help you navigate them more effectively.
  13. Seek balance: Strive for a healthy balance between work, family, and personal time. Prioritize what’s most important and learn to let go of perfection.
  14. Embrace quality time: Engage in activities that allow you to connect with your child and create positive memories together.

The views expressed in this article should not be considered as a substitute for a physician’s advice. Always make sure to seek a doctor or a professional’s advice before proceeding with the home treatment plan.

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21st CENTURY PARENTING

Just because your parents did so does not mean you should do the same.

The challenges faced by your parents are different from the ones that you face.

Adapt to the new ways of parenting.

I AM GIFT THAT STAYS WITH YOU FOR ONLY 16 YEARS

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YOUR VALUE IN THE FORMATIVE YEARS

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IT IS NOT ABOUT COUNTING CALORIES

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STRESS FREE PARENTING SEMINAR

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PARENTING IS ABOUT HELPING OUR CHILD DISCOVER THEIR BETTER JUDGEMENT

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CULTIVATING GOOD HABITS IN KIDS

Take a dictionary and look up the term HABIT.

HABIT, noun, a settled or regular tendency or practice, esp. one that is hard to give up.

As the definition says, habits are hard to give up. It is good idea to foster good habits as kids enter schools. When bad habits are formed they are difficult to break them.

Common annoying habits in children:

  • Nail biting.
  • Sucking
  • Hair twirling
  • Nose picking

These habits may even bother and worry you.

Relax, in most cases, these habits are just a phase in the normal developmental process and is not the cause for alarm.

Habits tend to occur in clusters. For example, usually 30 to 60% of kids and teens chew on one or more fingernails.

What causes a HABIT?

Habits may develop as entertainment for a bored child or more commonly, as a coping mechanism to soothe an anxious one. Next time you see a child doing such gimmicks, try to recall if your child has recently had a stressful experience? If so, the behavior might be your child’s attempt to relieve tension just as you would hit the gym.

Some kids do it when relaxed, listening to music. Some kids imitate you. Some do it to attract attention from mom and dad. Some to manipulate parents when they feel ignored or left out.

Good news is that bad habits such as these will disappear on its own as they age.

Some tips to wean these HABITS

  • Calmly point out that you don’t approve of this behavior. Give them the reason why. This approach will help increase awareness of the problem. You can say, “I don’t like you doing this. It does not looki nice.” Most importantly, next time you see her doing it, don’t scold, lecture or punish. Punishment, ridicule or criticism could cause the behavior to increase.
  • Involve your child in the process of breaking the habit. For example, your kid comes home crying that his classmates make fun of him for sucking his fingers, ask the child how he can leave his habit and how you can help him in that.
  • Suggest alternative behavior. Instead of biting the nails, how about both of you can wiggle your fingers. This will increase awareness.
  • Reward and praise him for self-control. You can give stickers or stars or a favorite cartoon for not sucking his thumb. Every time you see him not doing this habit there should a reward for him.
  • Be consistent in rewarding good behavior. Your child will get motivated. He is trying to leave the habit and it takes time.

When the problem is chronic, physical or psychological then talk to your pediatrician.


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Fatherhood – Be Involved, there is no greater joy

 

 


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ADVICE ON PARENTING FOR DADS

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PARENTING TIP: DISCIPLINE VS PUNISHMENT

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NEW YEAR POEM: LET ME BE

In case you are wondering, “Let me be…” is not a request for privacy. 🙂

It is, in fact, the title of a song performed by a band called The Statler Brothers in 1969.

In my opinion, it is also the perfect prayer for the New Year!

“Let me be a little kinder.
Let me be a little blinder
To the faults of those about me;
Let me praise a little more.

Let me be when I am weary
Just a little bit more cheery,
Let me serve a little better
Those that I am striving for.

Let me be a little braver
When my troubles bid me waver;
Let me strive a little harder
To be all that I should be.

Let me be a little meeker,
With a brother who is weaker,
Let me think more of others
And a little less of me.

Let me be a little sweeter,
Make my life a bit completer;
Keep me faithful to my duty
Every minute of the day.

Let me toil without complaining,
Not a humble task disdaining;
Let me think more of my neighbor
And a little less of me.”

Have a very happy New Year!

SPIRITUAL THOUGHT FOR PARENTS

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PRACTICAL PARENTING TIPS FOR NEW PARENTS

BBC had a lovely article on advice for new parents.

Here are some of the other gems that you rarely hear:

BE REALISTIC

Baby will change your life and routine. Social life? Forget it. No parties, movie night outs. No good night rest. Your life for the next two years will feel similar to a constant hangover. Don’t worry, go with it, even try to enjoy it – it will get better.

DON’T WORRY

You may feel lost and wonder what you have traded. Don’t worry and sweat the small stuff.. You will learn to love your kids for who they really are and enjoy them and realize that they really are one of the best things that happened to you.

HOW TO HOLD

When you pick up a child hold them side-on. That way they can’t kick you in the groin. J

HOW TO DECORATE YOUR ROOM

Keep a box of tissues handy in every room to mop up nasty spills.

ON ADVICES
Follow your instincts. Everyone, including complete strangers, will give you advice. Never argue – smile and say, "That is very interesting." Then ignore the advice unless you actually agree with it or pay for it (e.g. Doctor).

ONLY PIECE OF ADVICE TO FOLLOW

Love them a lot. No-one on their death bed ever said "I wish I spent more time in the office" – don’t regret placing your children above your career. Secondly, loving your children is not equivalent to letting them do/get whatever they want. Think long-term – the goal is for them to be responsible contributing members of society who know they are loved by their parents.

ON PROXY

Children are not your proxy. Don’t use them as competition.

ON RELATIONSHIP

Work the chores together with your husband

ON SLEEP

When baby sleeps, you sleep. Housework can wait. Never underestimate the power of sleep deprivation. It can turn the most pleasant of persons into a raging psychopath.


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MANAGING “CAIN AND ABEL” or SIBILING RIVALRY

WHAT IS SIBLING RIVALRY?

Sibling rivalry is the jealousy, competition and fighting between brothers and/or sisters. Some children are lucky to become best friends with their siblings. And some have a love-hate relationship.

The first thing to realize is that sibling rivalry is a normal part of growing up. It certainly drives parents crazy. Children are like little lawyers, always demanding fairness and equality and fighting for what they perceive are their natural-born rights. This kind of rivalry starts even before the second child is born and continues as the kids grow and compete for everything from toys to attention. As kids reach different stages of development, their evolving needs can significantly affect how they relate to one another.

CAUSES?

• Each child is competing to define who they are as an individual. As they discover who they are, they try to find their own talents, activities and interests. They want to show that they are separate from their siblings.

• Children feel they are getting unequal amount of your attention and responsiveness. And the need evolves over time.

WHAT COULD YOU DO?

The key to remember: How parents treat their children and react to conflict can make a big difference in how well siblings get along.

• Be a role model. Children often fight more in families where parents think aggression and fighting between siblings normal and an acceptable way to resolve conflicts.

• Set ground rules for acceptable behavior. Tell the kids to refrain from hitting, cursing, name-calling, yelling, and no door-slamming. Solicit their input on the rules as well as the consequences, when they break them. This teaches kids that they’re responsible for their own actions, regardless of the situation or how provoked they feel and discourages any attempts to negotiate regarding who was right or wrong.

• Don’t get involved, unless it is absolutely necessary. Step in only if there’s a danger of physical harm. If you always intervene, you risk creating other problems. The kids may expect you to rescue all the time. They will be waiting for you to solve every time, rather than solving the problems themselves. You inadvertently will become the savior of one and the other will feel neglected. That would foster much resentment. By the same token, rescued kids may feel they can get away with anything because they’re protected. Always encourage the kids to resolve the crisis themselves.

• If the language or name calling is a problem, you’ve to talk and coach the child when they are calm. This is different from intervening or stepping in and separating the kids.

• Let not the children force you to think that everything has to be “fair” and “equal”. Life is not fair. Sometimes one kid needs more than the other.

• Be proactive in giving your kids one on one attention directed to their interests and needs. Stress in your Childs’ lives can shorten their fuses and decrease their ability to tolerate frustration, leading to more conflict.

• Make sure kids have their own space and time to do their stuffs without sibling tagging along.

• Have fun together as a family. This can help ease tensions between siblings. Parental attention is something many fights spring from. Also Stress in your lives can decrease the amount of time and attention parents can give the children and that increases the sibling rivalry.

• Don’t play favorites.

• Don’t compare your children.

• Let each child be who they are. Don’t try to pigeon hole or label them.

• Enjoy each of your children’s individual talents and successes.

• Set you kids to cooperate rather than compete.

• Teach your children positive ways to get attention from each other. Show them how to approach another child and ask them to play and share their belongings and toys.

• Celebrate your children’s differences.

• Let each child know they are special in their own way.

• Listen really listen to how your children feel about what’s going on in the family. They may not be so demanding if they know you at least care how they feel.

WHEN DO YOU NEED HELP

Seek help for sibling conflict if it,

• Is so severe that it’s leading to marital problems.

• Creates a real danger of physical harm to any family member

• Is damaging to the self-esteem or psychological well-being of any family member.

• May be related to other significant concerns, such as depression.

If something is bothering about the fights always talk to your doctor. Doctor may be able to guide you.